We’re jump­ing in straight from part 1 with not much re-cap, so be sure and go back there if you need to catch up.

The time, the ener­gy, the abil­i­ty to write every day—not every­one has these. And while most aspir­ing writ­ers who “can’t” write every day may need lit­tle more than some bru­tal­ly hon­est intro­spec­tion about their real­ly real true-when-they’re-leaned-over-the-volcano pri­or­i­ties, there will always be those for whom the priv­i­lege of writ­ing every day sim­ply doesn’t exist.

And it’s a shit­ty thing to treat them as though it actu­al­ly does.

Whether they have a chron­ic ill­ness that inter­feres with their abil­i­ty to sit and form words, a dis­or­der like ADHD, or lives that are belea­guered enough that they real­ly can’t find the time, some peo­ple sim­ply can’t write every day. I have had con­ver­sa­tions with folks whose absolute­ly essen­tial med­ica­tions turn their brains to cot­ton can­dy for days or weeks at a time, a sin­gle moth­er work­ing two jobs and dri­ving for Uber who has some time on the week­end, but not a sec­ond dur­ing the week­days, as well as sev­er­al folks whose anx­i­ety and/or depres­sion is severe enough to make writ­ing impos­si­ble for sev­er­al days a month.

These are not moti­va­tion prob­lems. They are not atti­tude prob­lems. These are not writ­ers who aren’t try­ing hard enough or would rather do their fifth nos­tal­gia run of Fall­out: New Vegas.

For folks like this, to see writ­ing framed like “If you real­ly want­ed it, you write dai­ly!” can seem like there is some kind of moral imper­a­tive call­ing them to dai­ly writ­ing. A rubric of “A True Writer™” for which they have fall­en short. (“THOU SHALT NOT BE A TRUE WRITER™ IF THOU CANST WRITE DAILY!!! The Great Pen has spo­ken! All hail The Great Pen!”) It can seem like the legions of suc­cess­ful writ­ers who are extolling the virtues of dai­ly writ­ing are some­how ignor­ing the impos­si­bil­i­ty of what they prescribe—casually ignor­ing it in a way that in a way that echoes so many oth­er examples/so many oth­er forms of our culture’s era­sure when it comes to ignor­ing priv­i­lege.

“What? Me? Priv­i­leged? I’m just an able-bod­ied, neu­rotyp­i­cal, upper-mid­dle-class, cishet white Chris­t­ian male who makes mon­ey sell­ing books to peo­ple that tell them to get over their bad atti­tudes. Clear­ly, I have EARNED my lifestyle, and any­one who is still strug­gling to make ends meet in a retail job must sim­ply be lazy. I can’t be priv­i­leged, you know. Because as a child… I was… LOWER mid­dle class.”

And so it goes.

So, where does that leave us when folks who are phys­i­cal­ly, men­tal­ly, and emo­tion­al­ly able to sit and write are lec­tur­ing folks who aren’t about how to be writ­ers? Well, it gets tricky.

If they are telling peo­ple who actu­al­ly can’t write each day that they had to get over them­selves, sug­gest­ing that the only real lim­i­ta­tions were “a bad atti­tude,” or say­ing that these lim­i­ta­tions were just “excus­es,” they would be guilty of the rank­est sort of ableism (or clas­sism in some cas­es) imag­in­able. They would be per­pe­trat­ing the same sort of abhor­rent cul­tur­al fuck­ery that caus­es priv­i­leged dill hole ass­ca­noes to sug­gest that all any­one needs to do to beat clin­i­cal depres­sion is eat a light kale sal­ad and go for more yoga walks, or who insist, like lit­tle frozen-faced mup­pets, that being in a wheel­chair would not be that bad if only folks would just turn their frowns upside down.

And some… do. Fuck­ing help the world, some fuck­ers do exact­ly this. I can’t pos­si­bly make excus­es for every writer who has ever giv­en out advice. Writ­ers are peo­ple, and some peo­ple are ter­ri­ble judg­men­tal fuck­ers who want to be bet­ter than every­one else and will take their elit­ism where they can get it (because it sure isn’t rock-hard abs or slam­min’ social lives that make writ­ers super­fly). And while I would hope that if one or two traits could be said to be more ubiq­ui­tous among writ­ers, empa­thy would be one, I know it isn’t always the case.

Some ass­hole writ­ers sneer down their ass­hole writer’s noses at those who can’t sit still for hours or stare at a screen or a piece of paper the way they do, and tell them they are just mak­ing excus­es. Or almost worse, they set them­selves up as arbiters of whether any one par­tic­u­lar excuse is “legit­i­mate” or not. (“I deem your severe anx­i­ety… ‘wor­thy.’ How­ev­er, since I was able to over­come my own ADD, clear­ly no one has ever had it worse or had oth­er exac­er­bat­ing cir­cum­stances or anything—you are… ‘just mak­ing excus­es.’”)

These writ­ers need… well, what they real­ly need is a tall froth­ing glass of shut the fuck up, but let’s stick with con­struc­tive and say they need to real­ize that the abil­i­ty to write every day is a priv­i­lege. A brain that will coop­er­ate when tasked with sit­ting down to form words is a priv­i­lege. Not tak­ing med­ica­tion that can make con­cen­tra­tion impos­si­ble is a priv­i­lege. The abil­i­ty to emo­tion­al­ly han­dle writ­ing more than a social media post about your lunch is a priv­i­lege. Hav­ing a job with enough finan­cial secu­ri­ty that you don’t have to work two or three side gigs that fill every wak­ing hour is a priv­i­lege. Liv­ing in a part of the world where socio-polit­i­cal sta­bil­i­ty makes it pos­si­ble to sit down and write each day is a priv­i­lege. Being able to phys­i­cal­ly sit for hours is a priv­i­lege.

And while those who have these priv­i­lege might be numer­ous, they are not “default humans,” and these priv­i­leges are by no means uni­ver­sal. And writ­ers who con­tin­ue to lec­ture pre­scrip­tive­ly beyond the con­text of the teem­ing mil­lions clam­or­ing over them­selves to know what the secret is to Being A Writer™ need to know that their behav­ior is becom­ing harm­ful­ly ableist and prob­a­bly clas­sist.

Of course, we don’t need to stop giv­ing this advice. We just need to respect the nuance in which it exists.

“Write Dai­ly” is descrip­tive, not pre­scrip­tive*

*Ususal­ly. Or at least it should be. Please! For fuck’s sake, have some com­pas­sion!

Telling peo­ple in gen­er­al that they can make $1000 a week doing noth­ing but dri­ving for Uber in the city is just descrip­tive. That’s not inher­ent­ly prob­lem­at­ic. Nor is telling peo­ple when and how long you dri­ve for, or say­ing that if you real­ly want to make mon­ey with Uber, you have to be will­ing to put in a lot of rides at peak times (which means times when all your friends want to hang out) to get the bonus­es, and you have to be will­ing to split shifts and work long hours and do six or sev­en days. 

On the oth­er hand, assum­ing that any­one, any­where can make four grand a month ignores peo­ple who can’t dri­ve phys­i­cal­ly, who are too anx­ious to dri­ve or too anx­ious to dri­ve dur­ing peak hours, who don’t have the up-front cap­i­tal for a car (or insur­ance, or the cars that Uber approves), who don’t live in a big city, who have kids they have to take care of in the evening, who don’t have a license, or for what­ev­er rea­son can­not as eas­i­ly access that oppor­tu­ni­ty in the same way. And of course, this kind of ableism can get worse if, for exam­ple, the per­son who said “I can’t Uber. I require a wheel­chair,” were then told that they should just get one of those cars where all the func­tions are in the steer­ing wheel and stop hav­ing “such a trash can’t atti­tude.”

Speak­ing of trash, that’s where those isms belong. Next to the spaghet­ti that has gone off and the vac­u­um bag full of toe­nail clip­pings. And the peo­ple who say that shit.

“Write every day” as a mantra for suc­cess is sim­i­lar­ly descrip­tive. There are a num­ber of ben­e­fits of dai­ly writ­ing, not the least of which is that doing some­thing a LOT is the best way to get bet­ter at it.

We, the mem­bers of the writer’s cabal, didn’t get togeth­er and decide that we were going to set up a series of tri­als that would-be writ­ers would have to pass before they would be allowed with­in the inner sanc­tum where the label “real writer” would be bestowed upon them by a robed over­seer using force light­ning to etch their skin with the image of a quill and inkwell. Nor did we then laugh Dr. Evil-style at how hard it would be. Advice like this is, when it isn’t a writer sole­ly talk­ing about their per­son­al suc­cess for­mu­la, usu­al­ly the amal­gam of sev­er­al suc­cess sto­ries dis­tilled down to their purest form.

If you were to ask a hun­dred of your favorite authors (King, Asprin, Brust, Stein­beck, Roth­fuss, Williams, Asi­mov, Clarke, Quinn, Leck­ie, Tolkien, Muraka­mi, Ishig­uro, Mor­ri­son, But­ler, Tep­per, Moore, Pratch­ett, etc.…) for their dai­ly rou­tines, you would find mas­sive amounts of vari­ety in how much, when, where, and for how long they wrote, but would prob­a­bly find that all of them (or maybe 99) wrote every day. You might find a few who write six days a week. A cou­ple who treat it like a 9–5 job and only do five days. But most are putting in week­end and evening hours as well.

That’s how they got to be the best. That’s how they end­ed up on half the book­shelves of the Eng­lish-speak­ing world. Just like the best ath­letes or the best actors or the best musi­cians or even the state’s pre­mier brain spe­cial­ist or the best car­dio­tho­racic sur­geon in the tris­tate area: these peo­ple are con­stant­ly work­ing to be bet­ter. They work all the time.

Are there cre­ative writ­ers (and I mean pro­fes­sion­al, work­ing authors) who don’t write every day? Absolute­ly.

Are some of them pub­lished? Yes.

Are they suc­cess­ful? It prob­a­bly depends on what you mean by “suc­cess­ful,” but a few def­i­nite­ly make mon­ey and have read­ers. They prob­a­bly feel quite ful­filled.

Are they work­ing writ­ers? Well… this is where it gets a lit­tle tricky. They’re prob­a­bly not… total­ly. Not exact­ly. It is very unusu­al for some­one to make full-time mon­ey work­ing a part-time sched­ule. This would be true of any activity—and it would be even more unusu­al in the arts, which already usu­al­ly require more work to make a go at, not less.

You don’t expect the dry­waller who goes in to work twice a week to make $175,000 a year. Or the teacher who has only a part-time sched­ule one day a week to win a bunch of teach­ing awards. The idea that genius and tal­ent will mit­i­gate the need for hard work is a myth. Might as well start buy­ing lot­tery tick­et scratch­ers, for as like­ly as you are to hit it big with­out some spec­tac­u­lar­ly hard work. So if these folks are able to do noth­ing in their lives but write part-time, it will prob­a­bly mer­it out that they have a sit­u­a­tion that works very sim­i­lar­ly to any­one ELSE doing any­thing ELSE who is able to do it only part-time—a rich spouse, a trust fund, their par­ents own their house, some oth­er rev­enue stream… some­thing. But some­how they are mak­ing enough mon­ey not to need to punch a clock. If you take out the maybe dozen or so spec­tac­u­lar suc­cess sto­ries of first nov­el explo­sions that have hap­pened over rough­ly the last forty years*, cre­ative writ­ers who are able to pay all the bills by cre­ative writ­ing alone are usu­al­ly some­where between their fifth and tenth books, and have been putting in dai­ly writ­ing for a long, long time.

(*Don’t get me wrong. They’re inspir­ing sto­ries. But you’re as like­ly to make it big hang­ing around Hol­ly­wood restau­rants with your script in hopes of sell­ing it to Christo­pher Nolan.)

How about famous wide­ly read? Again, it prob­a­bly depends on what you mean by those terms, but it’s doubt­ful they would be a house­hold name. In the age of Google, it is no trou­ble at all to find writ­ers who will tell you that you don’t have to write every day—some even pub­lished. How­ev­er, the more a writer seems to have a career tra­jec­to­ry that aspir­ing writ­ers yearn to emu­late, the more like­ly it is that they are going to extol the virtues of dai­ly output—or close to.

Why bring this up in a post about ableism and priv­i­lege? Isn’t it just more of the same? (“You’ll nev­er MAKE IT to the pin­na­cle of writ­ing suc­cess if you don’t write every day!”) Did I give you all the ol’ bait-and-switch, and it turns out I was Keyser Söze all along?

Ha. If only you had noticed that my ram­bling back­sto­ry had used a bunch of words print­ed on var­i­ous objects in this room, then I could clear­ly not choose the wine in front of me!

But seri­ous­ly… Remem­ber the ques­tion that “Write Every Day” is usu­al­ly the answer to.

Or rather the ques­tions: “How do I get where you are?” “How can I achieve your suc­cess?” “How do I make the words come?” “How do you push past that blank page?” “How do you push through that cre­ative lull?” “How are you able to write so much?” “How do you make the mag­ic hap­pen?” “How do your ideas just come when mine don’t?” “How do you make words when I sit and wait and sit and wait and sit and wait for months, try­ing every­thing to be inspired?” “HOW????”

And the answer is that there’s no mag­ic, there’s no mys­tery. You sit down to work every day, prefer­ably at exact­ly the same time, and after a while, it gets a lot eas­i­er. The muse (or what­ev­er you want to call it) is wait­ing for you when you get there. Pret­ty soon, the words start gush­ing at Write o’clock.

And there is a priv­i­lege to being able to do that.

And it is ableist to assume that every­one and any­one can do that.

And we could all be more care­ful about what we’re actu­al­ly say­ing when we talk about dai­ly writ­ing.

It is also true that I’m afraid that if you actu­al­ly can’t sit and write dai­ly, there may be parts of writ­ing that are going to be hard­er for you. It’s not real­ly anyone’s fault that “dai­ly writ­ing is good for writ­ers” is a tru­ism. It just sort of IS. Peo­ple who prac­tice inces­sant­ly at things are bet­ter at them than peo­ple who don’t, and life doesn’t care if they don’t prac­tice because they want to play World of War­craft or they don’t prac­tice because they phys­i­cal­ly can’t. If you are a doc­tor, but you can’t spend 30 hours a week prac­tic­ing stitch­ing, study­ing tech­niques from your pre­de­ces­sors, read­ing med­ical jour­nals, and pur­su­ing oth­er pro­fes­sion­al devel­op­ment, you are prob­a­bly not the pre­mier sur­geon in your field. Even if the rea­son for that is that you get migraines and have had to go into inter­nal med­i­cine. That’s not your fault. But it is what it is.

How­ev­er… all that “True Writer™” crap is just that. And all hope is not lost of writ­ing suc­cess.

To help me make this point, let’s imag­ine two peo­ple who are not writ­ers. That way, we can divorce our­selves from much of the emo­tion­al charge that comes with the yearn­ing desire to BE WRITERS, the sense that any advice we can’t live up to is a per­son­al indict­ment, as well as from some of the mys­tery and mag­ic of writ­ing that we like to imag­ine can’t be trained or taught.

Let us imag­ine a run­ner and a cel­list. Each loves their respec­tive activ­i­ty. The cel­list plays in a com­mu­ni­ty orches­tra that rehears­es once a week and puts on a win­ter con­cert each year, and the run­ner has dom­i­nat­ed their local events. Both are quite good and “talented”—among the best. How­ev­er, each has also won­dered about advanc­ing them­selves to the next lev­el of their abil­i­ty and pos­si­bly even try­ing to make their pas­sion into a day job. Each vora­cious­ly con­sumes advice from coach­es and suc­cess­ful run­ners (respec­tive­ly). Each finds that advice from pro­fes­sion­als in their fields always has a sim­i­lar res­o­nance: practice/train rig­or­ous­ly and con­tin­u­ous­ly and, prefer­ably, do so every sin­gle day.

Each also had the oppor­tu­ni­ty to ask Bolt and YoYo Ma (respec­tive­ly) at a Q&A event about how to advance their career to pro­fes­sion­al cal­iber. In both cas­es, the speak­ers answered with the best advice they could: that coach­es and lessons and ener­gy drink recipes and all that stuff was nev­er going to mat­ter as much as raw prac­tic­ing (or train­ing for the run­ner) every day for at least a cou­ple of hours.

That’s how you get to be the best.

It doesn’t seem so unrea­son­able when we think about a musi­cian or an ath­lete, does it? Of course, those folks have to prac­tice. Of COURSE they do! Tal­ent might play a role, but tal­ent means about as much as a mos­qui­to bite on an ass cheek if some­one isn’t train­ing every day. Remem­ber this when we go back to writ­ing, and we get real­ly emo­tion­al­ly invest­ed in what we aspire to.

Now… let’s imag­ine our cel­list has a chron­ic arm injury that pre­vents them from lift­ing their arm for hours every day. In fact, if they prac­tice for a cou­ple of hours, they will be almost unable to move their arm the next day. An hour or so every two or three days is as much as they can man­age. What if our run­ner has recent­ly been diag­nosed with mul­ti­ple scle­ro­sis (a demyeli­nat­ing degen­er­a­tive dis­ease) and, though it is in the ear­ly stages, some days he sim­ply doesn’t have the mus­cle strength to run, lacks the coor­di­na­tion to do so, and may expe­ri­ence dou­ble vision.

Let us fur­ther imag­ine that Bolt and Yo Yo Ma were told about these con­di­tions before they were asked by these two young hope­fuls about how to advance them­selves. Remem­ber that it isn’t the real­i­ty that prac­tice makes you bet­ter at things that is in itself ableist, it is the idea that any­one can do it if they want it enough, or that fail­ure means you aren’t dis­ci­plined, or that mag­i­cal think­ing can sim­ply over­come such cir­cum­stances, or that a cheer­ful dis­po­si­tion and a “nev­er say die” atti­tude is all that sep­a­rates any­one from their dreams, or that depres­sion, anx­i­ety, any num­ber of a hun­dred dis­or­ders or ill­ness­es are just in people’s heads.

That’s ableism. And get­ting preachy about “write every day” when the con­text does shift is ableist.

So back to our two young hope­fuls, assum­ing Bolt and YoYo Ma are gen­er­ous peo­ple with com­pas­sion and empa­thy, they would like­ly have very dif­fer­ent answers.

And we’ll talk about those in the next part. As well as what we able writ­ers can do to make the world less hos­tile and judg­men­tal to those who aren’t able to write every day in our next part…

One response to “The Privilege of Daily Writing (And the Ableism of Prescribing It) Part 2”

  1. Accept­ing that my MS and asso­ci­at­ed fatigue meant days where I lit­er­al­ly can’t get up to get a glass of water, nev­er mind write, was hard. Then the relapse that took my hands. Good times. Adjust­ing my expec­ta­tions for myself was a chal­lenge but now I can enjoy the writ­ing I am able to do. I appre­ci­ate your tak­ing the time to write this series.

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